Well, here's my deal. Before I started working one-on-one with women, I had no idea the kind of leaps I would take in order to live the life I want.
I tried repeatedly as a young adult to live up to other's expectations of me, or do what I thought I "should" be doing, but was left feeling more purposeless each time.
I felt shut down and worse, ashamed, because I wasn't as happy as everyone told me I should be. So I hid my depression and desire for something more for years until I decided to take a leap of faith in another direction.
I didn't know what I wanted then but I started working hard to learn me. I learned to listen to my gut, and slowly through working with and listening to mentors and elders and peers, supervisors, in circle, on retreat, or while traveling... my life has transformed into one that is in line with my values.
I worked hard against the grain and as a result, I have learned how to live a deep life that is meaningful to me, not others' expectations.
Sometimes the leaps I took were literal, miles wide, life-altering physical changes, like moving to South Korea. Others, were more delicate internal shifts, like choosing to integrate more mindfulness into my daily activities. Every leap we take, is a decision to live our lives intentionally rather than by default, and that's what I'm all about.
The leaps I took, which all lead to me living a more balanced life aligned to my personal vision, have been so empowering that I've made a commitment to help other women do the same: make sustainable and transformational changes that reflect the individual authenticity of the woman herself.
This is the work of my heart and soul. What's yours?
How I Coach...
I incorporate mindfulness techniques into each session, which helps to set an atmosphere of intention that's therapeutic in person and grounded if we're speaking on the phone or video chatting.
I start each session by asking my clients what it is that they want to get out of our time together before we get to work. I like to do a "check-in" before we start as well so that I can get a feel for how my client is "showing up" mentally, emotionally, and physically to the session.
A lot of my coaching involves hands-on exercises that usually require my clients to step out of their comfort zone. I'm an adamant believer that we grow the most when we're encouraged to experience and learn in our "stretch zone" but not when we're panicking. I want my clients to understand that yes, I am an ally, a partner, and an advocate with their best interests at heart, but that means I also expect them to commit to the hard work necessary to get where they want to go. I will push them, a little more each time, and expect them to make serious effort because that's what it takes to be agents of change in our lives.
Sessions end how they began with a "check-in" and some action items or homework to do before we see each other again. It's important to me that each client feels that the session is complete before we part.